Guest Post: Destroying Prince Charming

Wow! That's a little mean isn't it? I mean totally, utterly, and with out mercy destroying Prince Charming? Mean? Yes. Needed? Diffidently.

When I say Prince Charming I'm talking about the perfect, romantic, handsome, genuine dream man...that doesn't exist. Yes ladies I'm sorry to brake it to you but the guy you've been waiting for and dreaming for your whole entire life (how ever long that is) doesn't exist.

Now I'm not saying that you'll never find the right man, I'm just saying you'll never find the perfect man. They just don't exist!

But how would I know? I'm just fifteen and none of my siblings have married so what should I know about topics like this?

Well first off I have four brothers and a dad, all of them are the most wonderful guys in the world (in my opinion) but...THEY'RE NOT PERFECT!

Secondly, God says so...
"For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God." Rom 3:23

"They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one." Rom 3:12

Well I think that pretty much makes it clear that no one is perfect. Through the blood of Jesus Christ we can grow to holiness but we will never be perfect.

Now I'd like to make a few points on the "knight and shining armor" thing.

First of all if he's an honorable knight, fighting for his king and LORD, his armor should not be dent free. The scars of a battle worn soldier are carried with him wherever he goes, whether to suet a princess of his Majesty or go for a ride alone in the country.

Secondly, as pointed out by my younger sister, it is the wife's job to clean a knight's armor, so if he is not married and he is busy expanding his King's domain, he does not have the time to clean it and therefore the only reason that it would be spot clean is if he's trying to woo you and has not fully given himself to his King.

But the saddest thing of all about this topic is that in a lot of ways, the Prince Charmings of today are created by the woman's imagination alone. And after speaking to my brother about it I know how high standards put a burden on men. Now because of the unrealistic, and unpractical expectations of daughters a suiter has to have enough money to live in a big house, pay for a nice car, afford new clothes, and be able to a have a huge wedding.

"Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, then a stalled ox and hatred therewith." Prov 15:17

I've heard story after story of marriages being torn apart due to debt. Wouldn't it be better to maybe not have a new car but instead be truly in love with a imperfect but the right husband?

So do prince Charmings exist today? Well you might be thinking, of course not! But you're wrong.

They do exist...everywhere you turn.

There are men out there that are depicted as the perfect man and even attempt to pass themselves off as well qualified for any good looking girl that comes along. We normally refer to them as Cads or Wolves but in a true since they are the Prince Charmings of today.

What is your definition of a perfect man? What are you looking for? Unfortunately there are a lot of women today that are easily taken by any good looking, "christian" "home schooled graduate" guy that comes along.

Whether they're animated or human Prince Charmings are everywhere.
A Prince Charming is any man who is deemed or made to look perfect.  And not only in our day, but in every centenary there has always been Prince Charmings. And I'm afraid that there always well be.
They are given every opportunity to show themselves, they're in the movies (even ones considered safe) they're on social media, in home school groups or at church, and they're on music albums.

But let me say this...whether they'll always exist or not, there's still hope.

When you are idle, temptation knocks loudly, but when your hands are busy, your ears will be too.

"Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep: so shall they poverty come as one that travelleth, and thy want as an armed man." Prov 6:10-11
Esentially if you're busy with the LORD's work then it will be hard for a man after selfish gain to woo you or capture your heart.

"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path." Ps 119:105

"For the word is quick, and powerful, sharper than any twoedged sword..." Heb 4:12

Keep his word near
And you have nothing to fear

One more note on being busy. The constant encouragement to "wait for Prince Charming" is in all forms...wrong. We as women were not meant to sit around all day and wait for a man to come for us. For most, that would mean over twenty wasted years! Each second is worth so much. "And what is your life? It is even a vapor, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." James 4:14.

Don't waist your life on dreams that have no eternal value. Although I am only fifteen I've learned the hard way how absolutely precious life is, and how priceless heavenly treasures are. "But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven..." Matt 6:20  Selfish dreams of a man who will wait on you hand and foot have no place in the mind of a woman of God, they are wasteful and destructive. "And the world passeth away and the lust thereof..." 1 John 1:17

Even though historically the dominion mandate was given to a group of was meant for women too. We have our part to play and it's time we took our noses out of those romantic novels our heads out of those dreams and our life out of fairy world.

It's time we stopped waiting for prince Charming and instead started helping the knights of our king who are all around us. It's time we stopped seeing men around us as "candidates" and started treating them as soldiers of the Almighty king. They need our help and we have no excuses to keep it from them.

"...but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates." Prov 31:30-31

May we all bring glory to God in everything we say and do.

Hi all! My name is Alyssa Wilson, I've been writing for the past four years and enjoy it greatly. Last year in September I started my own blog Dominion Focused Womanhood. When Elanee asked me to do this guest post I was really excited, I'm so glad to have this chance! 

I'm fifteen years old and live in Tennessee with my family of eight. I met Elanee eight years ago when we moved to OR, since then she has been an inspiration and encouragement to me. I'm so honored to do this article for her.

1 comment:

  1. Very thought provoking and convicting, Alyssa. Thank you for sharing.