Do You Honor Marrige?

    Hello everyone!
The command is 'Honor Marriage.' I am not in a marriage so I don't have first-hand experience, but we can all learn and relate to this command. If you are married then you can apply these in full force right now! If you are single, then you can apply these concepts to your relationships, so that if and when you do get married you won't have to learn how to love someone as yourself the hard way.
In the study for this command there are 'affirmations' or resolutions to apply in a marriage. I was convicted by these and realized that I needed to be applying them in my life now.
Affirmations for Honoring Marriage
1) I will give higher honor to the one who I am married to than to myself.
    "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other    better than themselves" (Philippians 2:3).
    This does not come naturally AT ALL (at least for me). I tend to put ME first and seek to    preserve my own rights and dignity above others.
2) I will commit myself to one person in marriage as Christ is committed to His Bride the Church.
    "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife and they    two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the     church" (Ephesians 5:31-32). In marriage this means having only one husband and only having     eyes for your husband. As single ladies, let's focus on growing in Christ rather than having a     'dating spirit' which is constantly on the lookout for the next eligible bachelor. I am pointing the     finger at myself because I am definitely guilty of this.
3) I will maintain purity before marriage.
    "Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication,uncleannessinordinate        affection, evil concupiscence, and coveteousness which is idolatry" (Colossians 3:5).
    There are innumerable verses on this. We need to bring every thought captive. We tend to    struggle with emotional purity and lusting in our hearts and thoughts which is just as bad in God's    sight as committing adultery (see Matt. 5:28). The book 'It's Not that Complicated'    by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin has helped me see from a more unselfish perspective.
4) I will decide that divorce is not an option in dealing with marriage problems.
    "For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one's garments with violence,    says the Lord of hosts. Therefore take heed to your spirit that you do not deal     treacherously" (Malachi 2:16).  God hates divorce and He intended man and woman to be in a     life-long marriage because they become one flesh (see Matt. 19, Mark 10, Rom. 7, etc.) Divorce     is usually the onset of even more problems; it is not leaving all your problems behind, but just     getting a new set of problems.
5) I will love my spouse as I would want to be loved.
    "Therefore all things whatsoever you would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them for    this is the law and the prophets" (Matthew 7:12).  This doesn't necessarily mean that you buy    your husband roses and chocolates. What do you like? respect? love? to be listened to? to be    encouraged? Be those things to your husband and to those around you, even when you don't    feel like it.
6) I will look for ways to develop loyalty and genuine love in my marriage.
    I Corinthians 13 pretty much says it all. Every time I read it I am convicted of my lack of love. I    go in thinking I am pretty good Christian...all loving and caring..I come out thinking how selfish    and self-centered I actually am! Love does not seek its, even what is ours we must not    demand (our rights, respect, etc.) Whether your married or not, we have ample opportunity    to work on genuine love.
I hope I am not coming across as some marriage expert, because I clearly am not. The Scriptures are your Marriage Owner's Manual, if we read it, and apply it, we will have success.
-Do you view marriage as a life-long, until death do us part relationship?
-How are you showing unconditional love to your spouse?
-Have you purposed to not entertain thoughts about divorce?
"Have ye not read that He which made them in the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder" (Matthew 19:4-6).
Notes adapted fro IBLP Commands of Christ study guide and pocket guide


  1. Great post Elanee. We certainly do need to be working on selfless love now...before we are married!
    Proverbs 31:12 She brings him good, not harm, *all* the days of her life.

    1. I know, this post was just as much to me as it was to anyone. I really need to work on loving others. Especially the people in my family.